WEBVTT 00:00.000 --> 00:04.840 Before service I felt like the Lord wanted me to bring this up this morning. 00:07.140 --> 00:20.240 There's a... oh, how would you say like a teaching or a feeling that goes through churches, that we need to sing more masculine songs. 00:21.280 --> 00:29.200 The songs are geared more for women and they're more emotional and, you know, that realm. 00:30.740 --> 00:32.940 So I want to explain that a little bit. 00:33.960 --> 00:46.520 If you go back to Revelation 2 where this song First Love comes out of, Jesus didn't say, women you need to return to your first love. 00:47.760 --> 00:54.820 He said church. That's men and women. Need to return to the first love. 00:54.820 --> 00:58.620 The thing that gets in the way for guys is our culture. 00:59.580 --> 01:04.220 Our culture has trained us to be non-emotional as guys. 01:05.180 --> 01:08.640 Either we're happy or we're angry. 01:09.380 --> 01:11.880 And that's about all we recognize. 01:13.060 --> 01:19.560 We miss all the myriad of emotions in between that we were designed to live in. 01:21.000 --> 01:23.000 We were designed to express. 01:26.900 --> 01:36.780 When you're singing to Jesus, you know, I've had guys say, well, you know, I can't see myself having physical relations with Jesus. 01:37.020 --> 01:38.260 He's a guy. I'm a guy. 01:39.220 --> 01:45.000 Yeah, see, that's cultural because we've been taught in America that love is sex. 01:46.260 --> 01:48.600 And if you love someone, you're going to have sex with them. 01:51.440 --> 01:54.580 That is so totally messed up. 01:56.340 --> 02:05.060 To love someone is to express your deepest emotion, which runs into the second block as men in America. 02:05.540 --> 02:07.640 We can't identify emotion. 02:08.320 --> 02:12.840 Even when, you know, even when I'm in counseling with guys and they say, I'm just angry. 02:13.060 --> 02:14.880 Well, anger is a secondary emotion. 02:14.880 --> 02:19.140 There's another emotion underneath it that's spurring that. 02:19.820 --> 02:21.040 What are you angry about? 02:21.240 --> 02:23.360 Give me not the thinking. Give me the emotion. 02:23.720 --> 02:26.020 What are you feeling that's making you angry? 02:26.380 --> 02:27.280 They can't find it. 02:28.940 --> 02:33.680 Is it betrayal? Is it abandonment? Do you feel lonely? Do you feel taken advantage of? 02:33.780 --> 02:37.140 Do you feel like people are not paying attention to you? Do you feel unheard? 02:37.480 --> 02:39.620 What are you feeling that you're angry about? 02:40.280 --> 02:41.480 They can't identify it. 02:41.480 --> 02:45.180 That's a cultural training problem. 02:45.900 --> 02:52.200 We've been trained not to live in that realm of emotion as men. 02:53.600 --> 03:00.180 And that's what your wife is complaining about when she says, it doesn't feel like you love me. 03:01.380 --> 03:09.200 She's wanting you to engage emotionally with her and share what you're feeling. 03:10.780 --> 03:13.340 Learn to identify what you're feeling. 03:13.540 --> 03:15.940 You come home from work, you're angry. She says, why are you angry? 03:16.120 --> 03:20.380 I don't know, I'm just angry. Well, that's a truckload of information right there. 03:20.520 --> 03:22.960 It's just like, well, that didn't help anything. 03:23.740 --> 03:28.260 What happened? There's an emotion under the anger. 03:28.960 --> 03:31.180 What is it? Let's talk about it. 03:31.720 --> 03:33.560 I don't know, I'll get over it. 03:34.140 --> 03:37.440 Honey, I feel like you don't love me. Of course I love you. 03:38.580 --> 03:41.320 Well, see, our whole culture has messed the whole thing up. 03:42.680 --> 03:47.100 When we say we love God, it has nothing to do with sexual. 03:50.200 --> 03:56.160 When you say you love your wife, the first thing shouldn't be sexual. 03:57.880 --> 03:59.680 The first thing should be love. 04:00.780 --> 04:06.860 And love is taking of yourself and expressing it and pouring it into the other person. 04:07.320 --> 04:11.740 Here is who I am. Here is what I'm feeling. Here is what I want. 04:12.240 --> 04:16.420 Here are my dreams. Here are my goals. Here are my desires. 04:16.820 --> 04:22.060 Here are my frustrations. I want to just pour it into you and they pour back. 04:23.300 --> 04:25.660 That's what Jesus is looking for. 04:26.340 --> 04:31.840 He's looking for us to open ourselves up as men 04:31.840 --> 04:38.920 and learn to express our emotion and build it and build it and grow in it. 04:39.400 --> 04:41.900 Can you sing that song right from the beginning again? 04:57.740 --> 04:58.300 Love 05:00.560 --> 05:06.480 And in your presence I can help 05:06.480 --> 05:11.320 but fall down at your feet 05:12.740 --> 05:15.160 Save your 05:16.420 --> 05:21.160 Oh beautiful, save your 05:23.530 --> 05:28.950 You became the sacrifice 05:29.530 --> 05:33.970 So I could be set free 05:35.410 --> 05:38.630 Take all I have 05:38.630 --> 05:41.270 It's all yours anyway 05:41.270 --> 05:44.430 I know it's not much 05:44.430 --> 05:47.250 God, it's my everything 05:47.250 --> 05:50.270 I pour my oil 05:52.310 --> 06:06.700 I pour my first love 06:07.220 --> 06:12.700 You are my first love 06:14.660 --> 06:19.960 I don't care who's in this room 06:19.960 --> 06:24.280 It's my eyes are fixed on you 06:25.220 --> 06:28.400 Take all I have 06:28.400 --> 06:30.920 It's all yours anyway 06:30.920 --> 06:46.080 I know it's not much, but God is my everything, I pour my oil on, I pour my oil on. 06:46.760 --> 06:55.040 Does it matter the cost? Is Jesus your worthy of every slice of? 06:55.040 --> 07:40.460 Here is my offering, I pour my oil on this room. 07:44.540 --> 07:47.060 Oh, I don't care.